11. His Needs Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley, Jr.
I read this so many years ago, but perusing it just now was super fun. It’s filled with highlighted sections (that would be LeRoy) and sections underlined in pencil (that would be me) and notes to one another in the margins. I think I’m going to show it to LeRoy tonight when we go to bed… so much of what I wrote in the margins were thank you notes to LeRoy for being the amazing husband that he is.
One of the gems we took from this book is Harley’s suggestion that the husband call and check in with his wife everyday before coming home from work. This is when LeRoy started to call me to ask, “What is the emotional climate at home?” (This is also usually when he asks me what he can do to honor and bless me, but sometimes he waits until he gets home. :))
3 stars. But I’m not sure I’d recommend it. While Harley gets a lot of things right, I notice that he makes a lot of gender stereotypes and presuppositions. Maybe I’m a little too free-spirited for his take on marriage and what he supposes women need and men need.