The 5 Love Needs of Men & Women, TBP #40

Only four more books to review on the topic of marriage! We’re in the home stretch!

I haven’t read “The 5 Love Needs of Men & Women” by Dr. Gary & Barbara Rosberg so I don’t have anything insightful to give you regarding this book.

I did read “The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands” by Laura Schlessinger back in 2006. Good book. I do recommend it. Unfortunately, I heard stories from several women who said their husbands shoved it at them, demanding, “You need to read this.” gracious. Us wives long to shower you husbands with honor and respect and love and intimacy. Be examples. Communicate with grace. Trust that our intent is to love you well.

Regarding needs… Sure, the research and polls state the data. But what if… just what if… we learn to liberate our marriages by not needing anything from them? What if, instead of seeking my needs to be met or even striving to meet my spouse’s needs, we seek God’s Kingdom for our marriages? (Matthew 6:19)

LeRoy and I attended Paul David Tripp’s marriage conference, “What Did You Expect?” back in 2013. The whole conference was beautiful in that it refocused our eyes on Jesus instead of what to do to fulfill or “complete” the other person. {huge sigh of relief} In fact, one of the last notes I wrote in our notebook reads, “When I experience you in your sin and mess, I don’t have to be angry or worried because I am putting my trust in Sovereign God.”

Yes. That.

No rating as I haven’t read Rosberg’s book. Perhaps it’s time to gather all the “Needs/You Complete Me” books and donate them. I get it that we live in the information age. Is it possible though, to think that Adam and Eve may have enjoyed intimacy, closeness, and friendship in spite of not knowing each other’s top five needs?



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